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Author: Jay Stringer
Publisher: Navpress
ISBN: 9781631466724
Year of Publication:2018
Pages: 261
Subtitle: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing
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Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing is a ground-breaking resource that explores the “why” behind self-destructive sexual choices. The book is based on research from over 3,800 men and women seeking freedom from unwanted sexual behavior, be that the use of pornography, an affair, or buying sex.

Jay Stringer’s (M.Div, MA, LMHC) original research found that unwanted sexual behavior can be both shaped by and predicted based on the parts of our story—past and present—that remain unaddressed. When we pay attention to our unwanted sexual desires and identify the unique reasons that trigger them, the path of healing is revealed.

Although many of us feel ashamed and unwanted after years of sexual brokenness, the book invites the reader to see that behavior as the very location God can most powerfully work in their lives. It can reveal the depth of God's kindness. Counselors, pastors, and accountability partners of those who experience sexual shame will also find in this book the deep spiritual and psychological guidance they need to effectively minister to the sexually broken around them.

  1. A Theology of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
  2. Setting the Course of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
  3. Dysfunctional Family Systems
  4. Abandonment: A Life in Exile
  5. Triangulation: When You're Married to Your Parent
  6. Trauma as Soul Loss
  7. Sexual Abuse: The Corruption of Desire
  8. The Six Core Experiences of Unwanted Sexual Behavior
  9. Three Hijackers of Our Souls
  10. The Sex Industry: Pornography as Male Violence against Women
  11. Transforming Self: Learning to Love and Care for Yourself
  12. A New Sexual Story: Sexual Healing
  13. Exercise Attunement and Containment in Your Relationships
  14. Practice Conflict and Repair in Your Relationships
  15. Pursue Strength and Vulnerability in Your Relationships
  16. Learning to Invest in Community
  17. Community as a Place to Experience Structure and Mutual Support
  18. Community as a Place to Offer Empathy for the Stories of Others
  19. Community as a Place to Discover Purpose: Living for a Bigger Story
Conclusion and Research Appendix


Unwanted is, without rival, the best book on broken sexuality I have ever read. It is heartbreaking and hope-restoring, and with immense kindness, it proceeds to where most work stalls and refuses to enter. Jay's research is groundbreaking. No one has pursued these dark waters with as much light-offering, data-bound research. Even more, Jay offer the heart of the gospel in a manner that doesn't trivialize sin or addiction but lifts the battle up to the ambivalence we have about freedom. This book will be a classic that anchors us in brilliant research, soul honesty, and biblical reflection.
- Dan Allender, PhD, author of Healing the Wounded Heart .

Unwanted enters the heartache of sexual brokenness and reveals the deepest longings withing us for redemption. Recognizing how evil seeks to misdirect our longings, Jay illuminates how even our sin can reveal important truths about ourselves and our unique path to redemption. Through groundbreaking research and a heart for the gospel, Stringer invites us to the critical task of finding hope and meaning within our sexual lives. He clearly shows how Christ invites us to depth of desire, not death of desire.
- Christopher West, author, Fill These Hearts: God, Sex, and the Universal Longing.

Over the past twenty-five years of ministry, I've witnessed many men and women floundering in a sea of hopelessness due to their own (or a spouse's) sexual brokenness. That's why I'm so excited about and grateful for Jay's work in the field of sexual addiction and restoration. If you're hungry for deep healing, or searching for practical ways to help others heal from unhealthy emotional entanglements and sexual dysfunction, Unwanted will be an incredibly sharp tool in your tool belt!
- Shannon Ethridge, MA, author of Every Woman's Battle.
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